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I finally did it! I Quit!


To all those readers and well-wishers who have been following my blog since October, remember the decision that I was procrastinating on, the one that I had to take but wasn’t sure when to take; the one I wrote a post on What’s the Right Decision? Why is it so difficult to decide sometimes?. Well, I’ve taken the decision and executed it!




Because, quitting was a decision that had to be taken in the better interest of the family. Sometimes in life, you need to take a stand, you need to choose, you need to prioritize. And that means you decide to take a step back so that your significant other can take a step forward. When that step forward means moving countries, you can either decide to stay away from each other, with both people carrying on with their respective jobs, as many couples in the present age do (and there’s nothing wrong with it) or you can decide to stay together and quit. I chose the latter. It’s not coercion. It’s not male domination unlike some feminists groups would have you believe. It’s a decision that I took because it felt right to me.

2.Was it difficult?


Yes it was! Not because I haven’t quit before. I have done it in the past, each time hoping to get away from the career that I had but landing right back. Somehow, it was easier the previous times. The job, the bosses and the work pressure made the decision to leave so much easier. Not this time though.

I’m not sure if it is because my mind sees it as some sort of a sacrifice or because the boss, the team, the job, the recognition I have, have all made it difficult to let go.

However, let go I must to hold on to something else. Maybe I will find that one thing that I have been looking for to do which is definitely not the career that I have been a slave of for the last 2 decades or it will be an experience that I learn from. Anyways, moving out of one’s comfort zone is tough and I know it’s going to be tough.

  1. Do I regret it?


No I do not! I am absolutely sure I will… if I do not take the plunge and keep living this amazing life that I have lived for the last so many years – a life that is as predictable as night and day. Not that that’s a bad thing though for I’m more than grateful for the past. The time however has come to move on and see what life has in store for us… for me.

Life is too short to do the same repetitive thing over and over again with the fear of trying something new for the fear of failure.


  1. Next what?

If that’s your question, I do not have an answer. I am going to have to start all over again and create a new identity for myself. As much as I’d like to disbelieve it, my job has been my identity until now. I have basked in its shadow. Does it sound lame? Well, maybe… but it’s the truth…most certainly my truth.

I have never found difficulty in answering the question, “What do you do?”. A one word answer has always been sufficient. Its given me confidence, increased my sense of self-worth and given me a sense of security. I will now need to find a way to answer the question “What do you do?”.


  1. Am I scared?

I would be lying if I said “No”. Change can be daunting and especially if it means changing your entire life. So, yes I am…a little scared. Of myself, of boredom creeping in, of not knowing what I am going to do next, of a 24 hour long day that I have been used to filling up with multiple activities which would take any normal person 30 hours; I am told. Of moving away from a country that I’ve lived in, my entire life and of moving back to a country that I was born in and I love but a country that I cannot say I know.


  1. Am I looking forward to it?

Yes I am! Not knowing is equally exciting as it is frightening . Quitting a 8 to 5 job means loads of time in hand to do the things that went on the back-burner all these years.

Will have to open that diary that’s lying under a pile of books in a top shelf . I remember writing, “If only I had more time…”.


  1. The Bucket List

I have it. Its now time to take it out and start working on it. There’s reading, writing, fitness, baking (thanks to Robbie’s Inspiration) , painting, exploring the country, making a difference in somebody’s life to begin with. There’ll be many more along the way. We’ll just have to wait and see. One thing I am sure of is that there will be immense learning.


  1. A Sense of Comfort – This Blog

As I embark on a new journey, I am grateful to have you’ll with whom I can share my experiences with. Thanks to this blog and each one of you who take the time to read and comment, no matter where I go, I know I will not be alone. When I started the blog a year and a half ago, I had no idea how this blog would actually end up being my life-line. This blog is one thing I feel confident of as I start the second chapter of my life.

You’ll have sent me your prayers and wishes when I was going through the decision making process. I will need those prayers and wishes now as I start on blank slate, from scratch all over again with an identity that is just me; no baggages attached.


9. Why I am telling you this?

Because I felt I had to.

Through the last year and a half, you’ve been here, I have shared every thought that’s crossed my mind, which I may have never voiced out aloud but have managed to write here.

Also, because my posts maybe a little different henceforth. As I try to find my path among the many that will now be available to me, I might appear confused, scared and unsure, one day, excited, happy and content on another. I wanted to make sure you understood why. I’m not sure what lies ahead but its easier knowing I am not alone. And thanks to each one of you, there’s never such a moment, night or day.

  1. Let’s inspire each other

Looking forward to reading your own inspiring stories of when you fought your biggest fear, moved out of your comfort zone to try something new. You could also share with me your own bucket list that’s waiting for you to act on. Maybe looking at it or typing it here will give you the impetus to work towards making it happen.


Wishing you courage and strength to make the change, to live your life!

Loads of love,


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  1. All the best in your (new) chosen life. It’s a tough decision. I have been vacillating for the last few years. Taking some time off and enjoying but, as you said, I would be lying if I did not have second thoughts from time to time.

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  2. Smitha, All the very Best. It is a difficult decision but hats off to you for having made it. There are a host of things I would like to do when I retire and I am sure you too would have your laundry list. Consider this as a God sent opportunity to pursue those.

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  3. Oh no, I have missed tons of posts it seems. Will catch up. But for now I’m grateful to see you so content and happy. Yes on the bright side, you can do what not with the time in hand like you mentioned in your post, the bucket list, yay!
    I think we should make time for ourselves, in the long run it wears us down and taking time out helps to regain our balance. Who knows you’d figure out something even more amazing to do with your life now.
    My best wishes to you, my dear friend. ♥️♥️

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    • Well, its not your fault. With me spending my last few days at office, I seem to be having a little more time and energy on my hand and have probably more often than before. Thank you Vageesha for the confidence and as always the positive encouragement. I need to get the hang of not being a slave 🙂 and learning to live without having to be on the run. Am definitely planning to work on my bucket list (work again :)) Thanks for checking in and your wishes. Need lots of those. XOXO

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      • Haha you’re so talented, everything you write is a treat to read including the comments. “Learn to get the hang of without having to be on the run.” Beautiful!
        Yes, it’s going to be a different feeling, not going to lie but an independent person like you will definitely figure it all out. I’m glad you felt better with my words♥️

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        • And you’re too sweet, talented and generous with your compliments. I do hope I figure it out and I’m sure my husband, my family are desperately hoping for the same… considering I can be rather difficult to handle if unoccupied😉


  4. Very best of luck in your new ventures whatever they may be.
    Very soon I’ll be coming to a point in my life where I’ll be finishing work & retiring after 35 plus years at the same company. Fortunately I’ve already started plans for when I retire. It’s going to be a huge change but like you it’s going to be an adventure.
    Very best of luck. 😎

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    • Thank you so much. Wow! 35 years in the same company. While you will definitely miss them I am sure the change is welcome. All the very best to you too Phil. We shall embark on a new journey, new adventures at the same time😊. That’s wonderful to know. Hoping to read your adventures here. Thank you again for your support during this transition.

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  5. Hey Smitha, a big tight long hug ❤ it is indeed very difficult to come out of your comfort zone which you have been used to from a very long time. Yes, it is pretty scary when the thought “what next” comes on the mind and you have no ans to it… Gosh… I hope and pray things will fall in its place and this new journey brings more happiness into your life. Hope and wishing you all the best with loads of love for your new journey. God bless you all 🙂 ❤

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  6. I am so glad you have been able to make a decision. Stopping work is a big thing. A lot of my identity is also wrapped up in my job which I am also good at. I had also decided to leave last year but circumstances changed at the company and I felt it would be the right thing for me to stay on for an additional year to help them through a difficult patch. I think you will find a lot of lovely things to do with your time and it may be the best thing ever for you. I hope if you decide to do some cake art and baking you will share with us.

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    • Its so good to know that you totally understand and can relate to my fear and the identity crisis🙂. So we were in the same boat last year…as you were thinking of giving up your job as well. Its my greatest pleasure to have met you here Robbie.
      I have one thing I definitely want to do and that’s learn baking through your videos. And I’ll definitely share my cake art with you, if not the world. Thank you Robbie for being so wonderfully understanding and supportive. Xxx

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  7. Hey Smitha. It must feel like a roller coaster of emotions running inside you. Quitting a 9 to 5 job seems easy to many but I can definitely tell you what it must been as I have been in your situation too, just a few years back. I had to do it, not as a sacrifice but because I had to choose of what was my priority. Like you, I had so many doubts, so many questions but luckily I have never had time to dwell over it. Life just fell into place and I can say with conviction that there has not been a single day that I have regretted my decision. Instead I found time to do what I always wanted to, that was to write.
    But mind you, the minute you are available at home, there are a million jobs (that you never ever saw before) jump down on you, wait in a line for your attention and with children around, they make sure you have plenty in supply to keep you on your toes. At least my children do.
    Relax and take time to enjoy.
    It was just the other day when I was walking by that I happened to see a woman who so very much resembled the picture of you at the marathon and I stopped to ask and she denied. Well apologized and walked along. May be, just may be we will catch each other somewhere, in a mall perhaps as with the weather getting dustier those are places we will start frequenting – once again.
    So until then, relax and enjoy and spend some time in the company of your own self.

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    • Loved your comment Pranitha. Thank you for sharing your experience. I’ve done it previously, taken 2 sabbaticals so I totally know about children’s demands😊. I actually quite enjoyed spending time with the girls. This time its different because I’m moving back as well…so that’s quite a huge change for me.
      Seriously! You stopped someone and asked😀. Where? Ok I dont know if we should plan and meet or wait for destiny to do the needful. With so many malls, its going to be quite a task for fate to make us cross paths😊. I will relax and enjoy my own company which I actually love😉. Thank you again so much Pranitha for reading, commenting and being there through this journey. Its great to have met you here.

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      • Yes, Smitha, it is wonderful to spend time with children… somehow it feels like we are reliving our childhood. Oh okay, I did read that bit but got lost in the other thoughts. That is a lot but you know I have always believed that all happens for the best…and we should just go with the flow.
        Yes! I did… I kinda fingered out that you don’t live on the Qusais area and that you take a can and not the metro but asked anyway.
        Are you on any of the social media, FB? Twitter?
        I suppose we must take destiny in our hands and meet up.
        I am Pranitha Menon on FB and @menonpranitha on Twitter. Please send in a message on Messanger or Twitter.. we will take it from there

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  8. Best of luck in your new ventures! I have also been deciding what to do with myself now that my children have moved on and my home educating days are over. It is scary facing the idea of doing something new but exciting too. 🙂

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